An Early Birthday Surprise 提早來的生日驚喜!

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I love surprises – good surprises that is.  I love watching movie stars surprising their fans, Oprah surprising her audience members with a free trip to Australia, or Ellen DeGeneres surprising a school teacher with a $10,000 check from Target.  Surprises gets me every time.  Although surprises don’t come that often in my life, my girlfriends from Taiwan gave me one of the best surprises this weekend, as I was heading to our regular Girls Night Out dinner on Friday night.

話說,我最喜歡看明星surprise fans, 或是歐普拉surprise 忠實觀眾,送她們一張免費機票,然後全場high 翻,哭著抱成一團,當然在現實生活中,我想強尼戴普不會來敲門,劉德華應該不會唱歌給我聽,我還在癡癡等待歐普拉送我一棟房子,不過,幸虧我有一群超級貼心的死黨姐妹淘!今年給了我即將到來的里程碑生日一個最棒的禮物.

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Max 5yr 7months, Mei Mei 2yrs

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I love having professional photos taken of the kids.  When you look at your kids through someone else’s lenses, you always find something that you haven’t notice before.

This summer is a special one because we decided that finally, it’s time for Max to go and stay with Grandpa/Grandma in Canada for 2 weeks by himself.  He was going to fly there with them, Mom and Dad will pick him up at the end of two weeks.  Mei Mei, however, didn’t go because she’s still my little baby girl.  Before Max left for his summer adventure in Canada, I found a photographer within a day, thanks to the power of “HK Moms”, a Facebook group.  I booked a professional photo session for the kids and the grandparents with Paula, a fellow HK mom and a professional photographer.  This was my “Thank You” gift to the Grandparents for all the free babysitting that we were getting.  Here are some of the photos that I LOVED.

今年的暑假對小麥而言,好像是他的成年禮一樣。  因為我們終於答應讓他跟爺爺奶奶飛去加拿大,住上兩個禮拜,然後爸爸媽媽跟妹妹再飛去跟他會合。之前我們總是擔心他太小,會想家或者是不習慣,ㄟ爸爸媽媽想太多了,小麥簡直是玩瘋了,每天的節目都非常豐富,晒得跟小黑人一樣,我想要離開加拿大之前,他可能會嚎啕大哭,跟我說他不想回香港吧!

在他離開之前,我在香港找了位攝影師,讓她去捕捉小麥和小艾這個年紀的神韻,而透過她的鏡頭,我的寶貝看起來淘氣,調皮,看起來天真無邪,可是看完整組照片,媽媽也很感慨,因為『我的寶貝真的長大了』!

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T博客系列: 職場媽媽的辛酸 – 我不是要準時下班,我要準時回去當媽媽!

就是這個新加坡廣告,引起許多媽媽們不滿,紛紛上網幹譙。

原本廣告訴求只是要提醒新加坡的外傭僱主們,讓外傭一個星期至少放假一天,因為許多在新加坡工作的外籍家傭,一個月只休假一兩天,有些甚至完全沒休假。近幾年政府才明文規定,家傭應一個星期放假ㄧ天,但還是有很多僱主不遵守規定。於是這個廣告找來了ㄧ群母親和她們的外傭,請她們回答一些關於孩子的問題,然後播出孩子的答案。結果在廣告中所呈現出的,是外傭一面性壓倒勝利,答對了所有問題,對小朋友的大事小事都暸如指掌,最後一張黑底白字的字卡出現,寫著『請給予家傭她們法定性的休假日』。

我看完廣告第一個反應是,『這個廣告也太歧視女性了吧?!』  首先,它把照顧小朋友的責任都歸咎於媽媽以及外傭身上,那爸爸是在幹嘛? 爸爸都不用負責照顧小孩嗎? 再來,這邏輯也很奇怪,因為如果母親沒有答對答案,就表示妳不太瞭解小朋友,所以妳應該讓外傭休假。 但是試問,如果母親若答對所有問題,是否就表示外傭不需要放假? 我討厭這廣告的另外一個原因,可能是因為它觸痛我這位職場媽媽內心的最深恐懼 – 小孩跟外傭關係緊密更勝過於我。

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T博客系列:我從霸凌經驗學到的事

趁著休假在家的空擋,我終於有機會去校車巴士站等小孩放學,而在巴士站,碰到了好久不見的M媽媽,聊聊兩人家庭的近況之外,M 媽媽突然八卦起來,問我知不知道隔壁S太太的八卦?

『什麼八卦?』 我最近工作忙,沒時間了解,也沒人跟我講。

M媽媽說,『哎呀,還不就是她小孩皮,在班上一直闖禍,跟幾個孩子吵架,還有打架,讓一些小朋友很害怕上學,其他家長很不開心』

『是喔?! 』我繼續問下去,『那學校怎麼處理?五歲的小男生本來就很皮啊!』

M媽媽口沫橫飛的說,『其他家長就聯合起來,告狀告到校長那去,就連家長會都被扯了進來,然後還大家坐下來一起開會』 『那最後結果如何?』 Continue reading

Off to Vietnam We Go! 出發!越南去!

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It was the trip that we have been planning for weeks – 8 families plus 17 kids.  Never mind the kids, I was super excited and SO ready for some sun, fun, beach, pool and plenty of pho!  Destination is Danang, a port city that sits on the South Central Coast of Vietnam.  Flight time from Hong Kong to Danang is only 1 hour and 40 minutes.  A short hop away and then this is what awaits – the perfect beach vacation.

計劃已久的復活節家庭旅遊終於要登場了!   因為有一對夫妻好友熱衷往峴港跑,去了兩次之後,也號召其他家庭一起參加他們的復活節旅行。最後揪一揪總共揪到了八個家庭,其中包含十七個小朋友一起出發。  不要說小孩子了,大人們都超級期待這次的旅行,我超級需要陽光,海灘,還有吃到飽的越南河粉。 峴港飛到香港需要坐兩個鐘頭不到的飛機,之後就可以盡心欣賞這樣風景…

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life is good, isn’t it?   人生夫復何求?

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T博客系列: 公主病 親吻也醒不過來的劇毒

我不清楚阿帕契是什麼東西。我也不想罵李倩蓉,因為有太多人比我更討厭她,更急著要罵。

整個新聞事件對我而言,比較重要的是,要怎樣教育出一個沒有公主病的女孩。 這個對我來說,遠比國軍機密更來得重要,因為家裡有一個小不點大的女娃,而她最迷戀的人物,就是”Princess”。

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MM’s First School Interview 妹妹的面試初體驗

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Yesterday was MM’s first and only school interview and when i say school, I mean pre-nursery.  This is the only school that I applied for her.  I guess it’s because I’m pretty confident she’ll get in because her brother went there.  Also if she doesn’t get in, I thought i’ll just keep her at home for another year.  I’m sure the helpers would enjoy having her around…I think. MM picked out what she wanted the wear for the interview herself, and the shoes to go with.  She’s usually pretty quiet in a new environment and didn’t say much.  Yesterday was no different.  The only word she said the whole time she was there was “Thank you”.  It was more like a whisper but she did say it and I was relieved.  She did, however, waved bye to the teachers as we walked out. We’ll find out the result next week. For some reason, it’s extra emotional for mommy to see her little girl all grown up and ready for school.  I guess because she’s probably my last child.  Sniff sniff…

昨天帶妹妹去她第一次的學校面試.  可能是因為這是哥哥的舊學校,她幾乎是十拿九穩可以入學,所以我非常輕鬆,完全是以回娘家的心態進去學校的.  不僅非常輕鬆,根本有點心不在焉的,把時間看錯,遲到了半個小時才到.  但是看到很多熟悉的老師,真的非常開心.  老師們也不斷地打量妹妹,說她跟哥哥長得一模一樣. 在面試時,老師也沒問妹妹幾句,只顧著跟媽媽聊天.  妹妹全程只開了金口一次,就是要離開時跟老師說”謝謝”  不過她說了之後,我還真鬆了口氣. 昨天的心情是有點複雜,一方面開心看見之前非常照顧哥哥的老師們,跟她們報告哥哥的近況跟秀照片.  另外一方面看著妹妹小不點大的身影,也很感慨她已經這麼大了.  很有意見的自己挑選衣服跟鞋子.  妹妹可不可以不要那麼快長大?